Quicksilver

Judgement and Not

If we're being criticized, we cannot change those doing it. Their expectations and disappointments are for them to handle or not. If we have a functional attitude about ourselves and go about our lives in a manner that fits our own values, our own belief system, and serves whatever higher power we trust, then that will have to do.

We should neither sit in judgement of others nor accept their judgement. Chances are, their judgement is merely a reflection of things within themselves which are not being addressed. In other words, if I am disturbed by the behavior of another person, I need to look at how that characteristic relates to me. Am I angry because they are displaying something that I have tried to hide within myself? Am I jealous of them for exhibiting something I lack but desire to be?

What others do is their independent action. How I respond to it is a reflection of my own soul.

Please do not equate non-judgement with rolling over and playing dead.

We have options for influencing the way our society is conducted, more and more on a planetary level, than just by country. Many recent grassroots groups have proven that there IS power in the people. They also prove the lesson of the pebble dropped into a pool of water. It DOES have an effect. We can work from small local groups and grow it to global proportions. We can work in small numbers to great numbers via the internet.

We have agreed that certain behaviors are improper. We've made laws, some of which are to reiterate 'God's laws or common-sense laws of cooperation among human beings (Right Relations), imperative for the survival of our species.

To take extremes for the sake of debate... I do not believe that we should stand by and let one kill another or steal from him or harm him in any way. Taken to the full extent of this principle, neither do I feel it is right to try to stuff people with beliefs that are not their own or to wear them down by telling them they are wrong and damned for what their own hearts tell them.

Being available to answer questions from your own understanding, being open and compassionate toward all, even those with whom you disagree --- these are admirable. Some would even say Christ-like. Any attempt to force an opinion or understanding implies an assumption that we know another person is broken and needs fixing, right now, by us. How can we know this? Which of us knows the grand scheme in that sort of detail? person by person? We do not. It's judgement and invalid.

We each must hold true to our beliefs and stand up for them. If we feel compelled by our hearts, our souls, to act against some violation of what we see as the laws, then we each must choose how to deal with that and whether to act on it or perhaps let our social network deal with it. If we have misjudged the situation, we shall get back the energy we have spent in error and I think it will not be helpful.

Judging is usually what drives action (ala vigilante activity) more than the law(s) or the common-sense of the soul, or causes a seething of negative reactions. When we dispense negativity, it will find us again. It may draw more unto itself. You cannot fight the darkness with more darkness. You have to grow the light and work to spread it, even in adversity.

If my child is killed by a madman, I am well within my rights to see him tried, and I certainly would hope that he will never be free to commit such an act again. I do not feel it is within my rights to want his life ended. I do not feel it is right to hate him. I don't know all the connections. I have suffered a loss, but no amount of damnation or retribution will restore what I have lost. Therefore, it is wasted energy and likely marrs my soul.

The only compassionate response, in my opinion, is to see that the murderer is put away forever, safely in a cell alone, where he can harm no one else. And maybe, just maybe, he can begin the healing and restoration his soul obviously needs. It would be nearly impossible, but yes, I would try to scare up all the light I could into loving this person by wishing they could heal. It's the only possible way to beat back the darkness.

This is non-judgement.

05.14.2001

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