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You Are A Venusian Goddess
You might be thinking, "Surely not. Me? A goddess?"
Yes, you. Martians often take it for granted that they are gods. We certainly see enough evidence of that. There is danger in going too far in that direction too, but it serves no one to bash them for it. In some ways, they're merely showing us that we could embrace our divinity too. It doesn't come easily for most of us. We aren't groomed for it. We're born goddesses but then, because of our more subtle and nurturing tendencies, we end up under the chariot wheel instead of riding in the thing.
Who is at fault for that? We are. We may beat ourselves up every day for things we didn't do right or things we missed or people we didn't get to or opportunities that passed. Do you know why we seem to get nowhere? We're laying in the dust, crumpled by the passing parade and kept there because on some level we think we deserve it. Now, if we thought we were worthy to ride in our own chariot, wouldn't we be able to get further along the road, instead of making a depression in it?
Sure, by filling in the potholes and dips along the trail, we're being very helpful, but sooner or later, it gets pretty aggravating. Don't we wish that just once a chariot would stop and give us a lift? Don't the others see how helpful we've been and couldn't they at least show some gratitude? Do they even notice that we're down here mashed in the muck?
Honestly, others may not notice. We are so skillful at helping that we often let others drive along on smooth road and forget that we're the ones who smoothed it out for them. Hidden assistance is one of the many talents of a goddess.
There's a difference between being pothole filler and helping smooth the way. All who use the road are also responsible for its condition. Now if we gradually take on a lot more than our share, others will let us do that. It's not their job or right or even ability to judge what we can handle. Only we can say that and it's up to us to say we've reached our limits before we get pounded to dust and have nothing left to work with but anger, frustration and resentment. We need to start negotiations when we feel run over the first time.
If you recognize yourself as a goddess, you will know that you do not deserve to be part of the pavement. You will immediately notice when someone tries to run over you. You will graciously inform them, without anger, that you do not appreciate their actions. You will grant them audience, to explain their side of the incident. You will not take offense if they didn't notice you on their path, but now that they've been apprised of the situation, you can negotiate how this passage should be handled in the future.
Some might call this positive assertion or use other psychology terms. It's diplomacy, another goddess gift. Diplomacy is a way to negotiate change or set conditions without hostility. We are supremely capable of compromise and we can do it while still maintaining our own rights, as long as we let the goddess within us do the negotiating. We can also afford to be generous, but not to a fault. We must honor ourselves by not making any deals which we know will leave us with tire tracks later.
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